‘I’m doing my best to put on a brave face’: Vanessa Feltz says she is trying to ‘do a professional job’ at work and not have fans think she is ‘falling apart’ after split from fiancé Ben Ofoedu
Vanessa Feltz has revealed she is trying her best to ‘put on a brave face’ in the wake of her split from her partner of 16 years Ben Ofoedu.
The broadcaster, 60, revealed in recent days that she and her fiancé, 50, had parted ways amid claims he ‘cheated with several other women’.
Speaking with Ulrika Jonsson on her TalkTV show on Wednesday, Vanessa admitted she’s trying to stay positive for the sake of her audience.
She said: ‘I’m doing my best to put on a brave face. After all, I’m at work, this is my job.
‘I don’t want to burden my listeners and viewers by looking thoroughly miserable so they dread watching the programme and thinking, “oh God, Is Vanessa falling apart before our very eyes?” So I’m trying to do a professional job and bear up.’
Candid: Vanessa Feltz has revealed she is trying her best to ‘put on a brave face’ in the wake of her split from her partner of 16 years Ben Ofoedu
The TV personality said she did have one moment of sorrow on her way to work earlier this week.
She said: ‘I did have one moment on the escalator coming up from the tube on Monday and I thought, “oh gosh.”‘
Journalist Vanessa and Ben first met in 2005 after she divorced surgeon Michael Kurer in 2000 who she discovered had also allegedly cheated on her.
She and Michael were married for 17 years and they share daughters Allegra, 37, and Saskia, 34.
Talking about Ben’s alleged infidelities, Vanessa said on This Morning: ‘It wasn’t me that told anybody about it, I tried to keep it private as much as I could.
‘You know that everyone knows your private business, but on the other hand, you don’t have to keep explaining it and everyone gives you a cuddle.’
And talking about the 10-year age gap with Ben, Vanessa said: ‘I’ve never really known why I’m of interest, he was younger, I was older. We were different.
‘Now it’s over, I don’t know.’
Split: The broadcaster, 60, revealed in recent days that she and her fiancé, 50, had parted ways amid claims he ‘ cheated with several other women ‘
Honest: Speaking with Ulrika Jonsson on her TalkTV show on Wednesday, Vanessa admitted she’s trying to stay positive for the sake of her audience
She added: ‘It helps when people say that you shouldn’t feel foolish for having faith in your own partner, or feeling stupid for believing somebody you loved.
‘That’s not ridiculous. I feel sad, I feel hurt, terribly humiliated, but lots have said you shouldn’t. But to believe in your own relationship isn’t stupid.’
Vanessa was asked if she had a feeling that Ben was being unfaithful or if her discovery was a complete shock.
She said: ‘Both, I think, terrible shock and a kind of gradual thing, It’s often the case, a mixture of the two.
Vanessa said: ‘I don’t want to burden my listeners and viewers by lookig thoroughly miserable so they dread watching the programme and thinking, “oh God, Is Vanessa falling apart before our very eyes?”‘
‘I don’t really want to dwell on anything and I want to focus on the future and that there is a future. I want there to be. To really gather all the love and spend time having a good time.
‘We’re doing a phone-in about broken hearts, I don’t know but if they could call in and help me out and give me advice.
She said later on in the show: ‘I want to fall in love again. I like that it’s what I was brought up to do. If i can’t, I’ll give lots of love.’
Vanessa added that she was ‘going out’ after the show.
She said: ‘Who knows, I might meet someone tonight! When it happens you’ll be the first to know.’
Honest: Vanessa was asked on This Morning if she had a feeling that Ben was being unfaithful or if it was a complete shock. She said: ‘Both, I think, terrible shock and a kind of gradual thing’
On the road: It’s been claimed that Ben’s return to touring with Phats & Small (pictured) at holiday parks around the UK led to his alleged roaming eye (Ben pictured with bandmate Jason Phats, right, in 2008)
‘If anyone wants it from me I can dish it out but if you wanted to call in and tell me, i feel like I’m in the eye of the storm at the moment.
‘I would be so grateful for the advice.’
Vanessa previously shared a video and said: ‘I am so glad to be living longer than my mum did, she died at 57 and for the Lord’s prayers, I am going to be 61 next month.
‘I am very very grateful to be alive and I want to carry on feeling that way and I want to celebrate and find fun and laughter anywhere I can.
‘I know it is not going to be easy but I am absolutely determined to do it.’
Alongside the video, Vanessa wrote: ‘I’ve missed you #brokenheart #onwardsandupwards #love #life #friends #family #thankyou.’
Ben has broken his silence by simply sharing a broken-heart emoji on social media.
‘Incredibly sad’: It comes after Vanessa shared an update after confirming she has split from her partner of 16 years, Ben but intended to remain positive
Old times: Vanessa’s first marriage to surgeon Dr. Michael Kurer ended in 2000 after he reportedly left her for another woman, 13-years after they exchanged vows (the former couple are pictured together in 1997)
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