FAMILY dynamics can be complicated – especially once everyone has grown up and living their own lives. 

And sometimes this means that you might not be living as close to your parents or siblings as you thought you would when you were younger. 

But sometimes this can cause drama within the family.

Like for one mum-of-two who has taken to the internet to express her concerns about her elderly parents' decision to move seven hours away.

n a viral post on U.K. based discussion site Mumsnet, the anonymous user wrote a post explaining how "gutted" she is about the move.

However, people are hitting back at her saying they support her parents' choice and that she should actually be encouraging them to "follow their dream."

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The mum wrote: "The place looks amazing and it really is a wonderful place to be, but I am so gutted that they won't be around to see the kids more often and just to see them myself.

“They are not young and have not thought about how they might need help in years to come."

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She also admits she may be "less inclined to help" her parents if they move back in ten years.

The post went viral with over 170 users commenting their thoughts on it. 

One person wrote: "Wow. OK, I'm going to assume you're saying that because, right now, you're hurt and feel rejected. 

“But you can't honestly mean that you'll cut off your parents in their old age solely because they didn't give up a lifelong dream in order to provide 'childcare and help' during 'the odd hour to get a haircut' as much as you think they should."

However, the mum wrote back: "I'm not going to be horribly unhappy in my life if [my mother] moves away, and I want her to have and love her own life. 

“I think the thing that worries me most is that she thinks she will still have the same relationship with me and the darling children. 

I'm going to assume you're saying that because, right now, you're hurt and feel rejected

“We just will not visit. And I don't mean that as us making a point, we just don't have loads of holidays to use to do it."

The mum also added that the move had been in the pipeline for ten years, but she "never thought they would actually do it."

In response to her post, another user said: "I understand but your mum has her own life and her own dreams she wants to fulfil. She can't live just for you and your kids."

Someone else agreed and wrote: "As you get older, you become more aware of the limited time you have left. 

'She can't live just for you and your kids'

“That doesn't half focus the mind on achieving your own dreams.

"Living a life where you dismiss your own dreams for what you think is someone else's happiness, is no life.

"To flip your theory on its head, our children would never want us to stay close to them at the expense of us living our own fulfilled lives."

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However, some commenters have admitted they couldn't leave their family with one writing: "As much as I would yearn to go and fulfil my dream and move to my dream home, I wouldn't be able to bring myself to seek my own happiness at the expense of someone else's.

"I'm not saying that the original poster's mum shouldn't go where her heart desires, just that I would feel bad if pursuing my own dream caused another person's life to be less happy. Knowing that would take away all of the joy, for me."

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