‘Cheeky’ bride blasted for expecting her bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses – including a single mother on a tight budget

• The bridesmaid took to UK- based website Mumsnet for advice on the dilemma 
• READ MORE: Furious bride calls off wedding to escape ‘toxic energy’ of her friends after they refuse to pay £1200 to attend nuptials

A single mother has questioned whether it is fair that a bride-to-be has asked her to pay for her own bridesmaid dress.

The anonymous woman took UK-based forum Mumsnet to seek other people’s opinions on the contentious topic.

In her post, the mother explained that she is from a low-income household and that paying for the dress would have a significant impact on her finances.

She added that as the other bridesmaids all have more disposable income, it is likely that they will pick a pricey dress, that may be too expensive for her.

Mumsnet users were quick to share their thoughts on the dilemma, with many branding the bride ‘ridiculous’ and ‘cheeky’.

A single mother has taken to Mumsnet to question who should be expected to cover the costs of bridesmaid dresses (stock image)

In her post, the mother asked if others thought she is being ‘stingy’ for not wanting to pay for an expensive gown 

The original post said: ‘I was asked to be DSis bridesmaid about a year ago. The wedding is in 6 months, she has just casually dropped into conversation I will be paying for my own bridesmaids dress…

‘I always thought the bride paid for this? She will be choosing the dress and it definitely won’t be able to be worn again elsewhere as her style is very glitz and glam and I don’t go to black tie events or anything like that.

‘I can’t say anything as the other bridesmaids are all fine with it and apparently my mum thinks its a great idea to keep her costs down. 

‘I also can’t back out of being a bridesmaid as everyone will want to know why and I will look like a cheapskate. I am a single parent on a low income and the thought of kitting out the kids is bad enough.

‘I’m now assuming we will be expected to pay for all extras too which I was half expecting, shoes etc. Other bridesmaids are single and have plenty of disposable cash so I doubt the dresses will be cheap if everyone has to agree and I am essentially overruled.’ 

The anonymous woman then asked whether she is stingy for expecting the bride to pay the cost of the dress. 

Users on Mumsnet were quick to share their thoughts on the matter, and many were left unimpressed. 

One said: ‘Oh been in this situation as a bridesmaid – told to pay AND to pay for all alterations, despite not choosing the dress. 

Users on Mumsnet were quick to share their thoughts on the situation, and many called the bride ‘cheeky’ for expecting the bridesmaid to cover the cost of her dress 

‘That dress has now been hung in my wardrobe for the past 8 years never to be worn again. Being a bridesmaid at that wedding cost me about 4 figures and made me incredibly resentful about it all.’ 

A second person added: ‘No way! I wouldn’t pay and I can afford to. Cheeky of the bride (to put it mildly) and to only mention it now. She can’t pick the dress and expect you to pay. Just say u can’t possibly afford it and weren’t aware she wouldn’t be paying as it’s not the done thing that she doesn’t pay!’ 

A third user said: ‘You tell her you can’t afford it and if she wants you in the wedding then she will pay, simple.

‘I think it’s very cheeky to expect people to shell out £££ for your wedding.’ 

A fourth wrote: ‘Ridiculous. Bride and groom pay for dresses. I had 7 bridesmaids, it never crossed my mind to ask. If you can’t afford the dresses don’t ask people to be bridesmaids.’  

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