DEAR DEIDRE: DESPITE making no effort to see our daughter since our split, my ex is trying to take me to court for 50/50 custody.

I can’t understand why he now suddenly wants to be involved in her life, but I’m worried sick about the impact he’ll have on her if he gets what he wants.

I’m 29, he’s 32 and we split up more than two years ago.

Our entire relationship was a nightmare and at times he was very verbally and physically abusive towards me.

Our breakup wasn’t easy, and while we had our own issues, I never prevented him from seeing our daughter.

However, he made it very clear from the start that he had no interest at all.

So I was shocked when two weeks ago I received a text message from him telling me that I needed to lawyer up.

I don’t know what to do. I know that he has his rights but I don’t trust him.

My daughter is  only four and barely remembers her dad.

How can I stop him?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Unfortunately, as he’s her biological father, you can’t stop him from taking you to court.

However, the court will consider the role that each parent has played in your daughter’s life so far and the reasons that your ex is seeking custody.

If he was abusive towards you they will also consider the impact this would have on her safety and welfare. 

Rights of Women can talk this through with you (rightsofwomen.org. uk, 020 7251 6577).

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